When my first baby was new and small and I was deep in sleep deprivation there was a piece of advice that made me cringe every time I heard it. I could almost feel it coming based on the sweet facial expression of the person and my recoil was strong before all the words were even out. This feeling strongly carried through toddlerhood and the babyhood of my next baby. Can you guess what the words were? It was a variation of the, “You’ll miss these days! They go too fast!” It was not helpful or encouraging when I was exhausted and dealing with a child tantrumming over something neither…